During this age of smart phones and computer technology, it has been easy to go down the road to purchasing new gadgets and spending an excess amount of time with them rather than connecting with friends and family.

     Newer findings reported in the Journal of Gerontology: Psychological Sciences suggest that socialization could aid the elderly to not suffer from dementia the way that physical exercise can keep you from developing diabetes or heart disease.

     When my own Mom lived at the Legacy House in Bountiful for two years it was the busiest time of my life. Not only was I juggling the lives and schedules of my seven children, but many other responsibilities as well.

      I’m not sure how I managed to visit with her each week and help her with physical therapy exercises, but I do know we both reaped social benefits in so doing. Our once-a-week lunch dates at Applebee’s were emotional lifelines for both of us as well as treasured memories now.

     Activities within your family such as playing board games, discussions during meals or going to social events can help stave off depression and stimulate your intellect. Staying socially active in your community and with friends and associates help with memory decline.

     Happy marriages with good communication can slow down age-related cognitive impairment. About her own marriage, Katy Wilson of Bountiful said, “It has helped me by ensuring that my best friend is always by my side. We basically share everything with each other- the good, the bad and the ugly. It makes our relationship stronger.”

     Using your talents or sharing your hobbies with other can provide meaningful contact with those who share your interests. Mary Messer of Bountiful loved having her kids participate in the chalk art festival that happens each year on Main Street. Not only has their art inspired others but it has especially helped her son Wesley to continue in his artistic pursuits.

     When you start new friendships with others be willing to learn about what special interests they have. Try to really value older friendships along with the new. Staying connected to those you have known for a long time adds richness and stability that you otherwise wouldn’t have.

     Kristy Anderson of Bountiful said, “I think texting is a wonderful way to stay in touch with people. I shoot daily messages to friends or people outside of my family is how I stay connected with them, and of course I love to make the occasional phone calls to friends as well. I also often try to schedule time to meet with people and do things such as going out to lunch or going to friends’ homes to visit or on walks with them. And of course, going to church is another great way to connect to the people in your ward family.”

     Higher self-esteem and lower rates of depression and anxiety are likely to occur if you can maintain healthy social connections with the people you know. In fact, your brain health depends on it.

     Your ties to other people decrease your chances of having suicidal thoughts or behaviors. Volunteering in your community or joining a club may be a great first step. However, developing strong bonds with others takes time. Active listening skills and a willingness to be vulnerable to others is required.

     Remember that strong social bonds do not always need to be with your own peer group. Your connection with a grandchild, a teacher, a coach, or some other mentor also add protection to maintaining brain health. 

     Always remember that you’re never truly alone unless you choose to be. Make those social connections happen even though it may be difficult. You need it as does everyone around you.